Archive for January, 2012

Short Reading: President’s Words

January 31, 2012 1 comment

This is a speech I had made back in 2009, when I was President of JCI Bamenda. Read it today, it still made sense to me. This was made to welcome all JCI Cameroon members to Bamenda on the occasion of the JCI Cameroon National General Assembly our Local Organization hosted under my leadership.  Thought I share, it may just make you understand a bit more about JCI.

Dear JCI Members,

Once again a new opportunity has come for us to meet and exchange enriching experiences. The second National General Assembly enables us look back at our local actions in our communities and re-invites us to consolidate positive influences by exemplifying our “active citizens” ethos.

JCI Bamenda, the ROYALTY of JCI Cameroon is happy to host you all for this event. We stand another chance to play our roles to the hilt. This will be done by going back into the second quarter to view the loads we signed on and how good they have been.

Today, JCI prides itself to be the leading organization keen to the aspirations of the global community and its members. That is why it offers continuous development opportunities which enable us counter the feel of faded glory and hope our nation seems to depict.

Excited by our gathering, we encourage you all to grab the opportunities to build human capital, develop capacities, augment your social power and equally explore the legendary North western hospitality reserved for the kings your are.

So, mark your dairies and agendas and muster enough strength to be here with us on the 24th – 25th of July 2009.

Mungai NFI

10th President – JCI Bamenda ROYAL


Upcoming Training Activity

January 24, 2012 Leave a comment

Short Reading: “I have learned…”

January 24, 2012 Leave a comment

(This text on Paulo Coelho‘s Blog. Rich indeed)

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them;
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back;
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm, for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something;
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take it’s place.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re downhill are the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity had more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will get hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.


“…But I Wanna Win!”

January 20, 2012 Leave a comment

My sister Nya-nyo has three amazing kids. Javan, Jayla and little Jasmine. I guess she has a thing with the letter “J”. For the first time in 17 years she decided to come back home to Cameroon with her family. They are now in Bamenda with my parents. Trust me they are having a wonderful time. For children who had never been to Cameroon before, I must say they are adapting just fine to our realities. Nya-nyo too is doing great. It’s like she never left. Old habits die hard they say.

Children love to play. Rolling on the floor, kicking stuff, drawing stuff, climbing on older people, you name it. And in all of this, they always want to have things go their way. They always want to win. They do not get tired as long as they enjoy and have a good time. They are beaming with energy. Have you ever been with an inquisitive kid? The secret is patience. Try to answer their questions as clearly as possible, if not more will keep coming. You learn a lot from these interactions. That has been my experience with the “three musketeers” (that’s how I call them).

A nice evening while bonding, we decided to play Scrabble. I am good at it. Three teams were formed. Nya-nyo/Javan, Mams/Hans and Jayla/Mungai. Team Jayla was leading the scoreboard, sure of winning, so sure they rested on their laurels and at the end, team Javan claimed the game. Jayla was so disappointed and sad. I decided to console her, saying I deliberately let team Javan win so they would be happy and that she had nothing to worry about. After all it was just a game with no significance. Well Jayla response made me understand one thing.

Most of the time, as adults, we tend to minimize things which may be very important to other people. And this hurts them. When we undertake to do things, our victory is in getting these things accomplished irrespective of how trivial they are. Once done, we win that battle and move on to others. When external forces want to influence us to deviate from our desires and loose with our tasks, like I was trying to do with Jayla, turn around, look them in the eye and like Jayla, say with firmness; “but I wanna win!” 



My 2012

January 12, 2012 2 comments

My 2012 will be very challenging. My transition year. The turning point from something good to something explosive. It may be very disturbing to read the vague things I am going to write below. But sometimes its good to think widely and then put in place a plan, focus on things, act on tasks and for those that fail, you would have learned something. Those that are slow, be persistent and most probably the results will come.

I had forged resolutions a long time ago. These I just reshape, review and perfect as years fly by. So, I have now isolated six objectives that fall within major areas of my life. These are; my personality, my spiritual life, my daily life, my family, my friends and my hobbies.

1.  Keep my word – Where I come from, most people take this particular aspect for granted feeling everybody would understand if they fail to make a call they promised or if they fail to “check on you” (as we say). Trust me, even for things as trivial as these, if we respect them, it is the same way we would respect bigger engagements.

2. Be punctual in Church and pray intensely – If you observe me in the morning, you will be amazed at how I fight hard to wake up early, beat the Traffic of Makepe and get to work 1 hour before official business time. Well, I do all to be in-line with what gets me paid. However I don’t apply the same seriousness to the Person who gives meaning and Purpose to my life – GOD. My resolve is to apply the same intensity with God like I do with work.

3. To avoid procrastinating and focus more on achieving targets, be they professional or personal – I remember three years ago, i designed a training course on how to beat procrastination, it was one of my biggest weaknesses. Trust me, many people know me to be very serious and committed, if I am, it is because I have been gradually eliminating the aspect of procrastination in my life. I get many things done. I help many people, I handle many projects and so people always appreciate the fact that I have time to help them. It takes a lot of discipline and planning to do this. And yet I still have pending issues to complete

4. Make constant contact with my family and friends – Not immediate family and close friends, I already am in constant contact with them. My relatives and slightly distant friends. I commit to contact at least one person I have not interacted with every month. Currently listing them. It may be broad but essential. By December I would have mended many relationships that are breaking now. Work pressure is never an excuse.

5. Back to the court – Back to the game of Basket ball. I am now physically fit, after having started night running sessions about four months ago. Technical skills must be revived now. Who knows, I may just make it to the NBA!

6. Uuuuuuuuum about Guinness, maybe I cut the intake and switch to wine or whisky or water. My junior sister Fichian recommended this. To her it makes me look mature, rich and big. Oh God, our thoughts are really amazing sometimes. Well Fish, I may hear you but that remains to be seen.

Your 2012!

January 3, 2012 Leave a comment

This is a great time to set the goals you need for success in 2012 and beyond.

Everywhere you go people are talking about their Goals and Resolutions for 2012. In the back of your mind, you might find yourself thinking about things that leave you uncertain, like the direction your life will take, will your business thrive, will you get that promotion, or will this economy get better. Things that beat our control.

Come December 31st 2012, I am not sure we would have realized all we think about now. However based on my little experience and training, and what I tell others in my training sessions and based on my observations about human relations, I would, for 2012, say this. You will get only what you commit yourself to.

  1. What you think about.
  2. What you plan
  3. What you focus on
  4. What you become.
  5. What you believe.

These will give you results. Because you would have prepared yourself, your mental, physical, spiritual and psychological energies will be affected, hence your attitude.

Many people may have written Resolutions for 2012 but that’s all they did. (Some people didn’t even write it down!) – Guess what? I did not write, but it is clear in my mind the things I am going to change. Those shall constitute my next article, and then would I have written them down and will be ready to act on them. Others do not even realize a new year has dawned and have to change certain things. Well for two reasons maybe they are already focused or maybe they just don’t care.

People choose a sector of their lives to focus on, forgetting to look at their lives globally. Hence when results they expect are hard to come by they wonder why. Get this little and simple secret. When you commit to a Goal, even when things don’t go as planned, you are always better off for making the effort. So, ACT ON YOUR GOALS.

Happy New Year!

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